I know this is a very sensitive subject & I’m not expert or doctor to speak about this. But let us understand that sometimes it’s just about having a raw heart to heart discussion, above and beyond the technicalities involved.
Mental Health is the biggest and the most important battle we, as a human race are fighting. Not that it was any less of a problem before but now with the whole pandemic and people being locked up in their homes, it has just aggravated intensely. Many like to say its about having the right understanding and being strong but honestly from whatever I’ve understood about it, it’s a different thing for everyone.
The most important problem amidst people that I’ve come to realise is that they don’t know the exact meaning of the term ‘DEPRESSION’. It is used very losely. They think that a few days of being low means you’re struggling with depression because you’ve scored less marks, spouse isn’t keeping you happy, work life isn’t good, etc etc etc. That could be just overthinking or you feeling low. It could only be anxiety or nervousness too. Sometimes those four days could also be a real problem that can further get prolonged. You just have to observe yourself. If one sees themselves slipping in a place where they can’t see any light at the end of a tunnel, immediately grasp control of yourself & if you can’t then please please please talk to someone who you are close to.
Not because it’s a hot or trending topic but because I genuinely have wanted to speak about Sushant Singh Rajput, a name popular in every household because of his abundant talent and stellar, par excellence performances on television and the silver screen, had everything but still he wasn’t okay. More than his performances, let’s not forget that he was an extremely intelligent person. With knowledge and the constant desire to know more about outer space, he who literally never stopped at helping people and also say some very real and listening worthy things in his interview, couldn’t keep it together for himself.
Pura hote hue bhi main kuch adhura sa tha;
Baahar roshni hote hue bhi andar andhera sa tha,
Beshumar pyaar milte hue bhi main andar kuch khokhla sa tha;
Baahar juda hua hote hue bhi andar toota bikhra sa tha,
Haste muskurate hue bhi main andar udaas sa tha;
Baahar sabke beech hote hue bhi akela sa tha,
Meri duniya mein sab chalte hue bhai main thama sa tha;
Baahar din-raat hote hue bhi andar waqt ruka sa tha
Daulat hote hue bhi andar khaali sa tha;
Baahar hawaa toh thi par mein andar ghuta sa tha,
Khush hone ki wajah hote hue thi kuch gham sa tha;
Baahar phool milte hue bhi main andar murjhaya sa tha,
Manzil par phohochkar bhi kuch khoya sa tha;
Baahar khushboo hote hue bhi ehsaas nahin tha,
Saans lete hue bhi bejaan sa tha;
Jab zameen par rehkar aasman chu lima tha,
Tab bhi kuch kaai na tha;
Isliye aasman mien sitaro ki khoj karne wala,
Ab un sitaro ke beech jaa pohocha.
For someone on the outside it is very easy to say that one has to keep going but for the person who is suffering, the air around them is so heavy that every breath they take feels like a task very difficult. Otherwise do you really think it is easy to take your own life? I’m not saying it an act of bravery but neither is it being a coward. It’s an emotion that they feel when they see that life doesn’t have a purpose or meaning. There’s a sense of fatigue that they feel while existing and they want to be freed from it. For some people, even seeking help isn’t enough.
But guys, please talk it out. To anybody who you’re comfortable with. Speak about it as many times as you like because the ones who really love you care about you and they will never be tired of you. If you ever think you require professional or medical help for the same, don’t shy away from it. If someone asks you who you are close to if you’re okay please don’t say you’re fine if you’re not. When you call your bad condition fine, you start believing it and that’s when you start thinking that you feeling a certain way is fine. It’s not.
if you are a family of someone who’s going through something like this, don’t shy away from it. IT IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. It’s like any physical condition that needs treatment. It doesn’t mean your family member is weak. remember, we are going to be the future society. If you’re a friend consoling somebody then please don’t tell them it’s going to be fine. Let them vent. It is okay even if it is a 100 times. & if you have nobody to talk to, remember this is a safe, healthy and welcoming space fr everyone for any kind of discussion.
Remember guys, we’re going to be the society in the years to come. For the sake of our generation and the ones to come, we’ve to normalise not being okay and seeking help. Let’s all break the stigma.
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